I love this quote. One of my biggest pet peeves is when people say, "that's how I am, take it or leave it" to excuse their rude or inappropriate behavior. Some women brag about being "bitches" reducing me to the logic of a child, "but why?" We are social creatures and we all have to get along! I too can be rude at times, and have felt more anger towards people recently, which is why I am thankful this reminder came along when it did...
"Personality is not cast in a rigid mold; the
whole secret of personality is that it is a process. The nature of a
process is that it can be changed. For a time, it is true, the changes
you are trying to make will not seem natural. When someone is rude to
you, you will still feel a wave of resentment inside. It does not
matter; at the outset, it is enough to act kind, to pretend to be kind,
to stage a sort of kindness performance.
Gradually, if you put your
whole effort behind this transformation, using the tool of meditation,
the seething will subside. Then it will not just be a flawless
performance, you will actually transform anger into compassion."
- Eknath Easwaran, from "Words to Live By"